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I told my coworkers I don't want kids and they treated me like I'm broken

Honestly, last month at the office lunch table in Portland, I mentioned I'm childfree by choice and one lady actually said 'you'll change your mind when you meet the right guy.' Tbh I'm 34 years old, I've known since I was 19 that motherhood isn't for me. Ngl it hurt more than I expected because three other people chimed in agreeing with her. I get that having kids is the norm for a lot of people, but why is it so hard to accept that some of us just don't want that path? Has anyone else dealt with this kind of reaction at work?

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the_riley16d ago

Is it possible that their reaction says more about their own choices than about yours? I've seen people get defensive when someone makes a different life decision because it makes them question their own path. You know yourself better than anyone, and being confident in that is way more important than getting approval from the lunch table crowd.

tarar2715d ago

Honestly, "question their own path" is exactly what happened with my friend Jen. She stopped drinking and her whole group got weird, and one girl literally said "so you think you're better than us now?" but it was totally about her own stuff. People get real uncomfortable when you do something that makes them look at their own choices.

valh3215d ago

@the_riley hit it right on the head. My cousin stopped eating meat a few years back. At a family barbecue his uncle literally handed him a burger and said "one won't hurt." People get weird when you live different. That office talk is just them projecting their own fears onto you.