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I finally figured out what my dates mean when they say "let's keep it casual"
I was scrolling through Reddit last week and saw a post from a woman saying she says "let's keep it casual" to avoid guys getting clingy after one date. It hit me hard because I've heard that line maybe 6 or 7 times in the last year from different women. I always thought they meant they wanted something super low effort, like just hooking up or texting once a month. But after reading that thread, I realized it's more about them not wanting me to start planning our wedding after dinner. So now I'm trying to not text them good morning every day after the first date. Has anyone else had a wake-up call like this?
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jessicac281mo agoTop Commenter
Exactly something about the word "hey" just feels loaded now that we're all overthinking everything. @phoenix29 you're so right it makes me flinch too. I think we've all been burned enough that even normal things feel like warnings. Like I used to think "casual" meant just sex and that's it but now I see it's more like a shield they put up because they're scared of getting hurt too. It's kind of sad honestly how we just assume the worst about each other's intentions from the start. Maybe we all need to just slow down and actually listen instead of guessing.
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