My dating app hit 100 matches and I still can't get a second date

I've been on 15 first dates this year from the app, and every single one ended with a 'nice to meet you' text and then ghosting. I thought more matches meant more chances, but now it just feels like a numbers game that I'm losing. Do you think focusing on a few good conversations is better than trying to match with everyone?

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the_patricia6mo ago

Yeah, been there. Matching with everyone just burns you out and makes every chat feel low effort. Focus on maybe five people at a time where the conversation actually flows. A few real talks beat a hundred dead-end matches. It stops feeling like a game when you're actually interested.

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aliceshah6mo ago

How do you even pick which five to focus on though? I just end up with a bunch of okay chats and no clue who to drop.

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henry6046mo ago

Honestly the whole match count thing is a trap. My buddy had like 200 matches and still ended up meeting his gf at a coffee shop.

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