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Question about sharing bill on a first date - what's the move?
I overheard two women at my coffee shop debating if offering to split is a test or just polite - one said she always insists to pay her half, the other said if a guy accepts, she wont see him again. Does splitting the bill actually kill the vibe or is it just common sense for a $45 meal at a local spot? What do you all think about who should pay on a first date?
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verar212mo ago
Honestly I think the whole "test" thing is just a game and it's not fair to anyone. If you want to split, just say so clearly. But here's the thing that bugs me: if a guy offers to pay and then you say you want to split, and he says okay, that's not him being cheap. That's him respecting what you said. Some people treat it like a trap and that's not cool. The real move is to talk about it before the bill comes, like "hey I'm good to split" or "I got this one." It saves so much awkwardness.
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uma6851mo ago
Had my nephew and his girlfriend go through something like this last summer. @verar21 pretty much nailed it. We were all out for a birthday dinner and when the bill came she said she wanted to split it. He said okay and paid his half. Later she was upset he didn't push back and insist on paying for both of them. I told her straight up that if you say you want to split, people are going to take you at your word. The way I see it, you can't expect someone to read your mind after you already spoke your mind.
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