That stat about men ghosting after 3 dates really got me

I was reading this survey on DatingAdvice.com last weekend and it said 63% of guys under 30 will ghost after the third date if they haven't gotten physical yet. That honestly blew my mind because I thought ghosting was more random, not tied to a specific number of dates. I had this guy from Austin disappear on me right after date 3 last month and now I'm wondering if that stat was the reason. Has anyone else seen numbers like that and changed how you handle the first few dates?

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hart.cora1mo ago

63% of guys under 30 will ghost after three dates if they haven't gotten physical yet" is just... I mean, that's a wild number. I had to read it twice because it sounds like something made up for clicks but then I looked at the sample size and it was over 2000 guys so maybe it's real. It makes me wonder if all those first few dates I've been on were basically just ticking a box for them.

piper_reed1mo ago

Haha, "ticking a box" is exactly the right way to put it, I've absolutely felt that way. I went on like six dates with a guy last year, all fun, good conversation, but I wanted to take it slow. After the third date he literally stopped texting, and I'm pretty sure I was just a checkmark on some list for him. It's such a bummer when you think you're connecting but find out you were just part of a numbers game the whole time. Your mileage may vary, but I've definitely started noticing that pattern more and more.

grant.nina1mo ago

Piper_reed brought up a good point about that numbers game feeling. I dated a guy once who took me to this super fancy sushi place on our first date, talked about wanting a real connection, the whole nine yards. After the fourth date I still wasn't ready for anything physical and he just vanished. I ran into him at a coffee shop a month later and he had a new girlfriend already. Makes you wonder if they're just collecting experiences. Like, are we just placeholders for something better to come along? The whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth.