Went on 20 first dates this year and only 2 turned into second ones. That number woke me up.
So back in January I made this dumb bet with my roommate that I could go on 20 first dates before summer hit, and I actually did it. I kept a note on my phone with each person's name and a one line recap, and when I counted up the second dates in June, the total was 2. Sitting at my kitchen table in Austin staring at that number, I realized I wasn't being picky, I was just picking people I already knew wouldn't work so I could say I tried. Two out of twenty isn't bad luck, it's a pattern, and I don't think I'm the only one doing this. How many dates before you figured out your own pattern?