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My old landlord in Dayton told me to just forgive and move on, and I'm still not sure he was wrong
Back in 2018 my best friend of 11 years borrowed $900 from me for a car repair and then quit answering texts for 8 months. My landlord at the time, a retired guy named Ron, told me "friendship ain't a bank, you either eat the loss or you lose the friend, but you don't get both." I ate the loss and we sort of talk now, but it is thin and weird and I still feel dumb about the money. Has anyone here ever tried the opposite, pressing the person to pay up, and did it somehow make the friendship better or just kill it faster?
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knight.mason10d ago
This fits a pattern I keep seeing where people treat money and friendship like they can mix with no cost, but money always adds a weird charge to things. Borrow a ladder, no problem. Borrow 900 bucks, now every BBQ has this quiet thing sitting in the room. Pressing someone to pay up almost never fixes it either, because now you are a bill collector and they are a debtor, and nobody hangs out with their bill collector. Ron was blunt but he had it right, you can keep the cash or keep the buddy, and the buddy was worth less than 900 to you in the end, which stings more than the money.
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