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Why does nobody talk about the third date rule for splitting the bill?
I had a date in Chicago last month where she insisted on paying after the first two dates I covered, but then a friend told me splitting always kills the vibe, so which side is actually right for avoiding that awkward wallet dance at the end? lmao has anyone else faced this debate?
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caleb_stone22d agoMost Upvoted
The third date after you covered the first two feels like a setup for that awkward moment. If she insisted on paying after you covered two dates, that sounds like a green flag that she gets the split is fair. But how do you handle it when the check comes and neither of you say anything for that 10 second pause?
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verar2123d ago
Oh man, that "awkward wallet dance" is the worst, I've been there. The third date rule is mostly a made-up thing honestly, real life doesn't work like that. My approach is to just talk about it before the date even starts, like "hey let's split this one" or "my treat tonight" so nobody is guessing. If she insisted on paying after you covered two dates, that's a green flag actually, she's being fair and not expecting you to foot the bill forever. The vibe only gets killed when you're both sitting there pretending not to see the check, not when one person just takes the lead.
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margaret_jackson7322d ago
People are out here treating a dinner check like a hostage negotiation. It's 15 minutes of your life, just say "I got it" if you want or don't if you don't. If the whole night is ruined by a ten second pause over who pays, maybe the date wasn't that great to begin with. My cleaner clients overthink whether to tip me and I tell them the same thing: it's not that deep, just pick something and move on. The real third date rule should be that if you're both still pretending you don't see a waiter coming with the card machine, you probably shouldn't be dating each other.
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