I finally hit the 6 month mark of being officially divorced and thought I'd feel free, not lonely

What changed my mind was a neighbor who stopped by with a casserole and said 'hey, you seem to be doing okay' and it made me realize I'd been measuring recovery by a number on the calendar instead of the actual small wins, has anyone else found a random milestone that surprised them more than the big ones?

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leo61217d agoTop Commenter

That neighbor's casserole moment sounds like a bigger deal than any calendar date honestly. Good on you for noticing that small win for what it was.

phoenix33117d ago

So my BIG milestone was the day I realized I'd been eating cereal for dinner 4 nights in a row, but not because I was sad... because I actually LIKE cereal for dinner and nobody was there to judge me. That felt like freedom for about 3 seconds until I dropped the milk carton and spent 10 minutes trying to clean it up while crying over the mess. Pretty sure my neighbor saw me through the window and just slowly backed away, which honestly was a bigger reality check than any court date. The calendar milestones are fake, the small weird moments are where the real stuff happens.