bens81•15d ago

I spent $180 on a therapist for my kid and it saved our relationship

My ex and I split about 2 years ago and my daughter was holding so much anger toward me. I thought she'd get over it but after a year of her barely talking to me I found a child therapist who specializes in divorce. She charged $120 a session but I went every other week for three months. Now my daughter actually talks to me again and we go fishing on Sundays. Has anyone else had luck with therapy helping their kids adjust?

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victorb7415d ago

I read somewhere that kids often blame themselves when parents split up, sounds like that therapist really helped her unpack that stuff. Glad it worked out for you two.

victorb7415d ago

Right, because what kid doesn't love being the reason their entire world implodes, right? My daughter used to say I "made Daddy go away" every time I told her to clean her room. Real MVP move on her part. It took a lot of talks and some good old-fashioned bribery with ice cream to get her to understand her messy floor wasn't what caused the divorce. Did your therapist actually get her to stop blaming herself for the weather too, or was that just our kid?

park.robin15d ago

Hey @victorb74, you ever wonder if the blame thing is actually a cover for something else? My kid used to say the same stuff, but after a while I realized she was less about blaming herself and more about trying to control a situation she had zero power over. Like if she could pinpoint a reason, maybe she could fix it next time. That therapist really got her to stop looking for a cause and just accept that some stuff is random and out of her hands.