Now I split bills down the middle with my ex instead of paying for everything like I used to for 12 years

After the divorce finalized 8 months ago in Phoenix, I keep a spreadsheet for shared kid expenses and it's weird how much less resentful I feel when I'm not covering their rent, utilities, and groceries.

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mary77625d ago

Honestly, that spreadsheet probably saved your sanity. Splitting things down the middle after 12 years of covering everything must feel like a massive weight off your shoulders. Tbh, it's wild how much resentment builds up when you're the one always paying, even if you don't realize it at the time. Ngl, it's good you're keeping track now - that kind of fairness can make coparenting way less tense. Good for you for making that change.

the_jamie24d ago

Ngl, you're right about the resentment thing building up, but actually I'm the one who set up the spreadsheet and kept track of everything I paid for. It wasn't really him always covering stuff, it was more me realizing I'd been covering way more than my share for over a decade. The spreadsheet just made it objective instead of feelings-based. But yeah, the fairness part makes a huge difference for sure, we're both way more relaxed about money now.