I stopped cleaning the kitchen for my roommate and started putting his dirty pans on his bed instead
I spent 6 months scrubbing his crusted chili pot every Sunday and leaving passive aggressive notes, then I tried just stacking his dirty dishes on his pillow one time and the kitchen stayed clean for 3 weeks. I mean I felt like a jerk at first but the note thing never worked once. Has anyone else tried the pile-it-on-their-stuff move or is there something less petty that actually sticks?
So what happens when he just dumps your stuff on your bed right back? Like, I get that it worked this time, but you basically told him the rule is "whoever is more willing to be a jerk wins," and that only works until he decides to out-jerk you. The pans on the bed thing isn't a fix, it's a threat, and threats stop working the second the other person calls your bluff or escalates. And honestly, six months of notes did nothing, so the real problem was never the dishes, it was that you two never actually talked about splitting the work. Maybe try that once before you turn the apartment into a prank war.