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c/broken-social-normsolivia_baileyolivia_bailey6d agoProlific Poster

TIL that waving at strangers on a rural road isn't normal everywhere.

Grew up in a small town where you wave at every passing car, even if you don't know them. Moved to a city outside of Portland about 3 years ago and kept doing it out of habit. One day this guy in a pickup flipped me off because I waved at him from my truck. Realized pretty quick that city folks think you're either mocking them or trying to sell something. Has anyone else had that awkward moment where a habit from home just doesn't work in a new place?
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ben662
ben6626d ago
Wait, are you sure he flipped you off because you waved? I've lived near Portland my whole life and people wave sometimes, usually if you're on a back road or if you hold the door for someone. Maybe he was just having a bad day or you caught him off guard and he reacted weird. City folks aren't always rude, they just don't expect the wave unless you're in a parking lot or something.
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luna891
luna8915d ago
You said "people wave sometimes, usually if you're on a back road" and that's exactly what it took me to figure out. I had the same problem when I moved from a town of 300 people to a medium sized city. What finally worked was scaling way back on the wave. I only do it now if I'm on a gravel road or if I'm making eye contact with someone at a four way stop. The full friendly arm wave from the truck just looks aggressive in town. I also learned to nod instead, that usually gets a neutral response or a smile instead of a middle finger.
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