My friend Jake said my 'brutal honesty' was just being mean and it made me stop and think.

We were talking about his new apartment in Denver last week, and I told him straight up the layout looked cramped. He just said, 'You know, there's a difference between being honest and just saying the first harsh thing that pops into your head.' That hit different because he's usually the one who laughs it off. Has anyone else had a moment where someone called them out on how they give feedback?

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skyler_thomas1mo ago

But isn't honesty supposed to be a little harsh sometimes?

the_hugo1mo ago

Wait, you think calling someone's outfit ugly is the same as warning them about a bad partner? That's wild. One is just your opinion on clothes, the other is about their safety. Harsh honesty needs a real reason behind it.

park.robin1mo ago

Question where that line is, though. Telling a friend their outfit is ugly is just mean. Saying their partner treats them badly is harsh but needed. Honesty shouldn't be a free pass to be cruel. Where do you draw that line?