That family reunion hug disaster opened my eyes to silent struggles
I used to assume folks who didn't like hugs were just standoffish. At a big family get-together, my cousin only gave a weak handshake and seemed off. Later, I caught her in the kitchen, stressed out and saying how being touched makes her feel trapped. That moment hit me. Some people deal with stuff you can't see. Since then, I watch for cues and go for a nod or a smile. It helps social stuff feel less tense for everyone.